Friday, June 1, 2012

Part 3: It's Your Dog Too!  How women become the sole caretaker of the family dog


 Women were designed by nature to give birth and therefore are natural caretakers and providers.
What possible harm can come from allowing a woman to provide most, if not all, of the dog’s needs?

“Regardless of the species, when parenting, one must be very careful not to cross the line from caretaker to servant. Dogs everywhere are beginning to let us know through their misbehavior that far too many of us humans are acting like attendants rather than masters.” – Jodi Andersen, The Latchkey Dog, HarperCollins Publishers, 2002, ISBN: 0062736663

Many men consider the family dog a house item and therefore assume all dog care duties would be under a woman’s jurisdiction. Ever notice the disproportionate number of women who are more likely than men to bring a dog to a veterinarian, groomer, day-care or kennel appointment?

“On average, women perform two to three times as much housework as do men … In general, women have felt obligated to perform housework, and men have assumed that domestic work is primarily the responsibility of mothers, wives, daughters and low-paid female housekeepers.” – Scott Coltraine, Professor of Sociology, University of California, Riverside, California

          Some men are reluctant to assist in the care of the dog because they fear it might be misconstrued by their mates as interfering, critical or a negative comment on her nurturing ability.                                                        

“When a women innocently offers her husband a suggestion for doing something differently, or gives him information she feels will be helpful, or asks for something she wants more of, he doesn’t hear what she actually says. He hears “You’re bad. You’re wrong. You made a mistake. You aren’t good enough.” – Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. Secrets about Men Every Woman Should Know, Dell Publishing, 1990, ISBN: 0-440-20841-6

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